From newly dating, to a 68 year old married couple:
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OUR STORY
My wife and I met 18 years ago over a game of dominoes. We were college students, crazy in love (and maybe a little bit of lust), and we quickly knew we were meant to be together.
Two weeks after eloping, we found out we were expecting our first of four kids. I was finishing my last year of college, had no money, no clue how to be a good husband, and was terrified about becoming a dad.
The first seven years of our marriage? Honestly, they were rough. Constant fighting, criticism, resentment, and no real peace at home. On top of that, we were raising four kids under six during a recession in Oakland. It was by far the hardest time of our lives.
But things did get better. Not perfect, but better. There is more to the story and I am ready to share , but I want to share more when you have more time. But for now, I want to share three life-changing steps I took to turn things around in my relationship. These three things will change EVERY relationship you have, if you commit everyday for a full year - your relationship will dramatically shift.
The first thing I learned was taking personal responsibility for my part in the toxicity. I stopped blaming my wife for how unhappy I felt. I realized that I wasn’t blameless, and I needed to own my actions in the situation.
The second thing I realized was that self-love, personal growth, and accountability could actually transform a marriage. I didn’t blame myself, but I focused on getting better for me—not for her. I poured energy into my development mentally, emotionally, spiritually, financially and all the other lly's :) This made a huge difference in how I showed up in our relationship.
The third thing was getting help. Even now, 18 years later, I still rely on support from someone trained in the tools I need to keep growing and maintaining a healthy relationship. Am I perfect? Definitely not. Is my marriage without issues? No way. But are we more connected, playful, grateful, and intimate today than we were when we first “fell in love”? 1000% yes. And yes, it’s been a ton of work.
If you’re stuck, feeling frustrated, or unsure about how to move forward, I can help you find your way. It’s time to get started—let's do this together.
